A woman who knows what she wants is a dangerous thing.
Somebody, somewhere, at some time said this and if they haven’t I’m saying it now. What keeps women weak, powerless, and disenfranchised is cutting them off from the voice inside that knows what it wants. We are too busy, too tired, stretched too thin, believing somewhere deep inside that we can still do it all. That we can make everyone happy, take away another’s pain, fulfill our loved ones, or keep the peace. This, I am sorry to say, is all bullshit.
The truth is a bit more gritty. We are not the savior or eternal problem solver, we are flawed. All of us, even us super moms. Rather than it being a criticism it is an invitation to let go of annihilating perfection. Then we can learn to be with what truly is, who we truly are, and know that it is enough and we are enough. In all reality there is no possible way we can make others achieve this kind of wholeness and sense of belonging if we haven’t started to address it and achieve it for ourselves.
What we do need is some peace and quiet to begin figuring it out. Virginia Woolf said we need a room of our own and although this is very true what we also need is trust in our soul voice that resides within. Then when we enter that room we bring with us deeper awareness which allows us to focus on what’s happening within and what needs our attention or healing.
What we do with our time is our choice and it can be a powerful one. Do we paint, write, or meditate in our room? Doing the things that resonate with our soul begins unlocking long lost doors within. Or do we endlessly obsess about what’s happening with everyone around us and wish we could do more to fix it. Could do, would do, should do will never be enough. Fixating on another’s needs only sets us up for burn out, disillusionment, resentment, and anger.
What we absolutely do need is more extravagant silence, time stretched out before us so we can collect the pieces of ourselves and souls that go unnoticed in the chaotic business of the day. Oh, and how about loosening our kung-fu grip on managing everyone else’s life? We may in fact know better but we have our own issues to deal with, our own wounds to heal, and our own paths to travel. Trying to fix another is just a sneaky diversion from what we need to look at in ourselves. We can love, support, and nurture another but don’t pick up their baggage as if it’s our own.
Knowing what we want means shedding all the noise of what everyone else wants. Take careful counsel, take into consideration wise advice, but in the end it always comes back to us and our personal mystery that needs unraveling. Knowing what we really want and following it into manifestation opens the door to big time magic!
So how much do you know about what you really want? Give yourself some time and see what evolves.
kb
